Change Your Mindset in 5 Minutes a Day
One of the essential building blocks for self-love may come as a surprise to you: it’s gratitude.
A consistent gratitude practice has changed my mindset and my life, and can do the same for you.
It takes 5 minutes a day. It’s easy. And it’s a game-changer. This is alI do: every night before bed, I pull out a notebook from my bedside table, think about my day and write down 5 things I am grateful for.
Some days the writing is easy. When I see old friends and we laugh like no time has passed. When the sun is shining and I am walking with my headphones and the perfect song comes on, bringing a huge smile to my face. When life and conversation and timing perfectly align.
And other days feel harder. When I am moving through a transition. When I feel exhausted or lonely, or just down and out after months of snow and darker afternoons that are slushy and cold. But even on days like this, there are things I am grateful for. My loved ones. My comfortable bed. My agency and strength. The freedoms that surround me. The promises of tomorrow.
Why do I do it?
For over a decade I have been writing in my gratitude journal nightly. It is now second nature. It has made me happier and more confident and has helped me develop a more optimistic way of viewing the world and living life.
Science backs the fact that gratitude improves physical and emotional health, increasing self-esteem and resilience. It brings clarity. It helps relationships and deepens friendships.
Because of this practice, I have become highly attuned to the many good things in my life. I see the brighter side. When something comes up that takes me by surprise, I scan the situation, looking for a silver lining, searching for the learning, the growth, the hidden gems. I have a radar for miracles.
Last year, I lost a job opportunity that I believed was destined to be mine. I was completely blindsided. And I was heartbroken. Gratitude was a way to re-contextualize the experience for myself. I was able to notice the goodness that surrounded me:
Friends and colleagues who piped up with declarations and gestures of love, lunches, coffees and bamboo plants.
An understanding of how my disappointment mirrored the experiences of many others in my life - how connected that made me feel.
A realization of all the other possibilities that now existed before me.
Living proof of one of my favourite sayings: "If a door doesn’t open, it is not your door"
Living proof of another one of my favorite sayings (this one is actually ON THE COVER OF MY GRATITUDE JOURNAL. REALLY!): "Make room for the new"
I began seeing richness in my experience. This richness kept my feelings of loss company, and soon, overtook them.
I have trained myself to see possibility. It’s one of my prized tools and secret weapons.
Developing and committing to a gratitude practice is something I recommend to all of my clients as a necessity for a more balanced, happier life, and is something I now recommend for you.
Keep it simple! Don’t wait for a ‘perfect moment’, or to have a fresh, new notebook, or to have a lavender candle burning beside you. Now is the perfect moment. Your gratitude practice should be easy and fun.
So this is my challenge to you. Every day for the next week, write down 5 things you are grateful for. Click here for a template I have created for you that makes it extra easy.
Guaranteed to help you see things in a new light. Guaranteed to inspire change and make you feel more empowered.
Gratitude for the people and opportunities in your life. Gratitude for yourself. Gratitude for possibilities that you are creating.
Try it out and let me know how it goes at the end of the week. What changes have you noticed? What has come up for you? I can't wait to hear.
With gratitude ;)