Adventure Lessons from Northern Scotland
I spent last week in northern Scotland with my husband, Adam, and our two kids, Oliver and Jojo (ages 3 and 6). It was the first in our five-week Scottish journey.
Travelling is a lifelong love of mine. The newness, the surprises, having my mind opened up. This trip is no exception.
I feel extra alive. Really present in myself and with my family and everything we're experiencing. It feels like a true adventure.
People often ask me how to create more adventure in their lives. So, here are some suggestions for you.
You can incorporate these ideas anytime, anywhere - even while you’re in your home-city, holding it down like a champ at work and with your family. I promise.
When we say we crave “adventure”, we are really saying we want to feel free.
We want to feel powerful enough to make our own choices. And small enough to be moved by the beauty of the world.
For this to occur, we must be present. And to be present, we must unplug.
Last week, I had no data plan. I took hundreds of amazing photos: mountain ranges; endless lakes (‘lochs’); stunning greenery; my kids dozing together on the bus.
But, I didn’t post much on social media.
Instead, I checked my email at the end of the day before bed for a few minutes.
That was it.
That pre-bedtime-email-check reminded me of when I was in university. Email had just come out and I had a slow, clunky desktop with noisy, dial-up internet that I could only be bothered to turn on once a day.
Spending my days unplugged again felt so good. I felt lighter and freer. I was able to experience the week as the adventure it was.
When I get back to Canada, I’ll be leaving my phone at home intentionally more often and I invite you to try it, too! Start with a few hours without your phone at the park or the farmer’s market.
What's the experience like? Are you more present going about your daily adventures?
Being in nature is an incredible antidote to stress.
So, this past week, being surrounded by hills, lakes and lush greenery completely calmed my citygirl nervous system.
If you haven’t yet heard of shinrin-yoku, or ‘forest bathing,’ you will soon. Forest baths are mindful walks through the woods that have sustained therapeutic benefits.
I repeatedly witnessed the therapeutic effects of forests on my family. As soon as we entered the woods, my kids became calmer. They walked for long stretches with few complaints or arguments (even when it inevitably rained!). They loved it.
We saw sheep and sheepdogs, fed lambs and cuddled puppies on a farm. We hiked up a mountain to meet a herd of reindeer that are thriving in their windy habitat after being brought over from Norway. The animals walked amongst us gently. They ate out of our hands, allowing us to stroke them and admire their soft fur and velvet-covered antlers.
These moments stand out like little magical interludes that have become our best adventures.
3. The Price of Admission
Soon after Adam and I got married nine years ago, we agreed on a shared dream to spend our summers overseas with our (future) kids.
We’ve been designing this life for years: declaring the dream to one another repeatedly; making choices to support it; putting pieces into place.
This marks the second summer where the dream has come to fruition. Both times an opportunity popped up. We said “Yes” even though there were plenty of reasons we could have said “No”, or “Not now”.
To make our dreams of adventure come to life, we had to think creatively and do the work required. We’ve both taken on different, extra jobs. Adam is working while we’re here and I'm juggling time-zones for client calls. Our kids aren’t in a camp like they would be back home - instead, we’re caregiving full-time, coming up with plans to suit everyone’s needs and interests as best we can.
Before we left, we rented out our home, which involved a ton of work. Some of our friends said, “I could never do that, it feels so risky.” Fair—yet, we found ways to minimize the risk in comparison to the reward.
While you may not choose to rent out your home to fund your dreams, chances are, you’ll need to step out of your comfort zone in different ways. You’ll need to think differently than others in your life would. And choose differently. You’ll need to make certain compromises and take chances others’ aren’t willing to. Sometimes they’ll be time consuming and uncomfortable.
You can consider it the price of admission for your adventure. Which I say is more than fair.
What do you want?
Do you have dreams you want to chase? What does adventure mean to you? I’d love to offer you a half-hour mini coaching session to talk about how you want to change your life. Contact me here and we'll arrange a time.