Feeling Stuck? Try This Formula

You know those people who seem to effortlessly and routinely change their lives for the better?!

They pivot jobs. They take on new health regimes. They actually do the things on their bucket list. No dramas - they decide to create change and then execute.

Well, here’s the thing – these people aren’t just lucky and inherently good at changing their lives. They’re good at change because:

  1. They take themselves and their desires seriously,

  2. They get support along the way to make changing as easy as possible

So, if you’re feeling stuck, unhappy, or just meh about your life, this article is for you. Here are my 3 steps to help you find a path out of the muck.

Step 1 – Know Who You Are Today

If you’re confused about what you want next, your first step is not to create a complicated to-do list. Instead, it’s to get real about who you are as a person today. Devote time to this on a regular basis!

And be honest. Because if you’re not, you’re chasing the wrong dreams and no matter how many boxes you check, you’ll feel a persistent longing inside. Answer these questions:

  • What are your core values - and are you honouring them?

  • What’s missing in your life?

  • What’s your life purpose?

  • What do you want?

  • 20 years from now, how would you like to reflect upon your life?

Getting to know yourself before you make big choices is absolutely fundamental to your overall happiness and life satisfaction.

Step 2 – Take Your Desires Seriously

Want to ditch a soul-sucking job? Become an artist? Start your own business? Live in Prague? Become a designer? Write a book? Have a baby? Host a podcast? Fall in love? Lose 40 pounds? Move to the country?

The better you know yourself, the clearer your desires will become. When you can articulate a desire, take it seriously! You’re allowed to want and dream up new things for yourself. Your path doesn’t need to be a linear one - maybe it’s a zigzag.

Don’t dismiss your desires as ridiculous, too different, far-fetched or impractical!

I’ve heard all of these excuses a hundred times from my clients - and then months later, I witness them bring these so-called “ridiculous” ideas to life. When you know what you want, declare it! Ditch the disclaimers. Print out your goals and review them every day.

  • Write down 5 things you desire this week

  • Write down 5 things you desire next year

  • Say them out loud 5X per day

Step 3 – Surround Yourself With Support

Spend time with people who believe in you.

If you're starting a new job or relationship, changing a habit or routine or embarking on a fresh chapter in your life - take inventory of your community. The world has 7 billion people. 7 billion!! Find a small handful who let you be the person you long to be, and live the life you long to live.

As you step outside your comfort zone, you’ll feel uncomfortable and resistant at first. It’s an inevitable part of change. You’ll need people in place to remind you of what you’re capable of and hold you accountable to your goals.⠀

Action : Make a coffee date this week with someone that will love hearing about your ideas.

You Don’t Need To Carry Your Past into Your Future.

Being stuck in a rut of indecision is NOT your destiny. Just because something was your past doesn’t mean it needs to be your future. With clarity comes the power to change.

If you want my help to become a powerful, intuitive goal-setter and finally go after what you truly desire, check out my one-on-one coaching program. I’ll walk you step-by-step through a process to identify and map out your dreams & goals and make them a reality. You’ll love it.

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