The Top 5 Reasons People Hire A Life Coach
Over the past five years, I’ve worked with hundreds of people who are looking for more in their life.
What’s amazing is that while goals and circumstances are unique, they’re linked by desires that are common to us all: We want life to feel big and expansive. We want to be proud of how we’re showing up in the world. And we want love – to experience it with others and the world, and to love ourselves.
The title of this article is “The Top 5 Reasons People Hire A Coach.” But, every coach brings their particular skillset and energy to the table, and each could come up with a collection of reasons that reflect their practice and approach. This speaks to the depth and diversity of the coaching field – which is a terrific thing.
All that said, let’s consider this article a round-up of the top 5 reasons people choose to work with me. 😊
Enjoy! And let me know if you see yourself in these descriptions.
1. YOU WANT TO FOCUS ON THE FUTURE INSTEAD OF THE PAST.
You honour where you’ve been and what you’ve learned, but you don’t feel the need to analyze every nook and cranny of what went on, what went wrong and what could have been.
The big question on your mind today is: “What’s next?”
You might already know what changes you want – establishing a new career; taking a new, bold stance in your life; writing and publishing a book; ending or beginning something concrete.
Or, you might not know exactly what you want to create next. What you do know is that you want your life to feel bigger.
Working with a coach is one of the most productive ways to contemplate meaningful change, plan for change and, ultimately, take action.
2. YOU’VE OUTGROWN A ROLE YOU’RE PLAYING AND YOU’RE READY FOR SOMETHING NEW.
You want to make the most of what you’ve been given. You’ve got gifts and talents that aren’t fully being used yet. You want to grow and expand and make an impact.
What you don’t want to do is sit back and watch the years go by without taking a chance on yourself. Whether you are 18 or 98, you can change now.
Maybe you’ve outgrown your current situation, a role at work or at home. Something used to fit, but it just doesn’t anymore.
You keep thinking: “This just doesn’t feel like… me.”
It’s totally possible to shift how you spend your time so that that it feels more like, well, you! Like my client, Sue who shared:
“I've learnt to set boundaries and manage relationships differently, letting go of negative ones, nurturing the remainder, and finding more energy to make new friendships. I’m consciously expanding my world and pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I’ve revisited my love of learning and enrolled in several courses at Ryerson University.
Arguably my biggest indulgence is doing two hour tai chi classes several times a week without any hesitation... No more guilt about ‘wasting time’!”
Your time is YOURS. You are always at choice. Coaching is an incredible way to help you remember it and tap into that truth.
3. YOU WANT MORE CONFIDENCE (AND LESS IMPOSTER SYNDROME!)
Even though you’ve gone over your situation a million times, you haven’t figured out how to move forward.
Logistical and emotional hurdles keep popping up. Sometimes your dreams feel impossible or out of reach. Sometimes you think: “I wish I was just confident enough to go for it.”
Feeling stuck is what prompted me to hire my own coach over six years ago. Before working with her, I was trapped into believing I had two career options, let’s say A and B. My coach asked me what C – Z could be, and beyond. My mind was seriously blown!
I hadn’t realized how stuck I was, that I was trapped in a story of what was possible for me. Since then, my career and everyday reality has evolved above and beyond what I could have imagined. And I know I’m only getting started.
If you feel stuck sometimes, it’s because you’re a human being. If you want to get out of the muck, you can can either get some help or you can try to figure it out on your own (which may work, but will likely be more painful and take much longer) .
A coach can help you uncover and develop genuine confidence so you can finally go after what you desire.
4. YOU WANT AN ACTION PLAN.
Who doesn’t love a map of where they’re going?!
Just like you type your final destination into your GPS before you put your keys into the ignition and begin driving, you absolutely need to clarify your desired outcomes and goals if you want to get someplace new.
A coach will help you define what you want and punch it into your own internal system!
Once you’re clear on your destination, you’ll consider the possible routes. You’ll get creative, work, try, plan some more, and dream about how awesome it's gonna be when you arrive.
A nice bonus is that you’ll sleep better at night because you know you’re on your way.
5. YOU WANT SOMEONE IN YOUR CORNER WHO BELIEVES IN YOUR FREEDOM TO EVOLVE.
Family and friends are dishing out advice, hoping to help and “fix things” for you.
They might point out that it’s risky to take chances, that the market is already saturated with what you want to do, or that your current situation really isn’t so bad…. Shouldn’t you just stick it out??!
These folks may love you and mean well. However, absorbing their fear of change will keep you stuck where you are.
If you want to evolve and do something new (which will inevitably bring up all of the fears), you’ve got to have people in your corner who believe in your capacity to grow and do hard things – and see value in that journey.
You want someone who doesn’t have a fixed, preconceived idea of who you are and what you should do. Who believes in your freedom to change, wants you to succeed and holds you accountable to your dreams. 👊
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
If it does, let’s talk! If you want to do something different with your time on this planet, you’re ready for meaningful change and want some help, I invite you to try out a coaching session with me. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
All my best,