Understanding People Pleasing
Mitigate Your Pleasing Tendencies
In this episode Sarah & Pam discuss:
What people pleasing is and why it's often misunderstood.
How to know if you're a people pleaser.
The difference between being nice and pleasing.
The downsides of people pleasing.
How pleasing can actually drive people away.
The little ways that pleasing shows up in our day-to-day and creates a pattern that has a larger impact.
How pleasing affects relationships.
Where the desire to please comes from.
How empathy is related to pleasing.
That pleasing is easier in the moment but harder in the long run.
How pleasing is related to conflict avoidance.
Whether pleasing is more common in women than men due to societal conditioning.
How pleasing is a defense mechanism. How motivation types relate to pleasing tendencies.
How to develop awareness of your motivations and pleasing tendencies.
Tuning in to when you feel whole, empowered, and authentic and when you don't.
How our busy lives, lived on autopilot keeps us out of mindfulness of our patterns and energy.
How practicing radical self-acceptance mitigates the need for external approval.
Why speaking to yourself in the third person can help you get perspective on a situation.
How futurecasting can help you deal with a situation now rather than putting it off until later.
How to practice asking for what you want.
The infinite loop of giving and receiving and how you have to receive to be able to give.
How to practice setting boundaries.
How a spreadsheet could help you see results from making incremental changes.
Links You Might Love:
Take the free Four Tendencies quiz to discover your motivation style here
The accompanying book, The Four Tendencies, is available at most booksellers. It's a quick read that Pam found very helpful.
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